{Love and Sex (2)}[30th July 1989]

[Redbook6:173-175][19890731:1141b]{Love and Sex (2)}[30th July 1989]

19890731.1141

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*I am moving towards an understanding of a spiritual Love: which, while between two of the same sex would tend to be more relaxed, probably less spoken; between two of opposite sex would generate, and creatively thrive upon, the tension inevitable in the natural and complementary opposition of the sexes.** Such a relationship between opposite sexes would have many of the characteristics of a love-affair, but without sexual intercourse. It need not, indeed should not, be monogamous: it should be one of a plurality, a net linking the Community in the Spirit not only through the relationships themselves, but through shared knowledge of other such relationships involving one or other or neither*** of the lovers.

Since any such Love must include trust, it would be as well for both adult lovers of opposite sex to make clear and understand, perhaps through private declarations {by each}****[,] that what he or she intends is a spiritual relationship but that he or she will, if the other asks, have sexual intercourse with the other – once. This is binding in honour only. The result of a request to have sexual intercourse is very likely to be the end of the spiritual relationship: either immediately, if the other party does not accede (there being no enforcement or penalty); or immediately after sexual intercourse, if as is quite likely the requested party desires to terminate; or gradually, through a process of descent or disintegration.

*[[Redbook6:13-14][19881023:1754]{Love and Sex (1)}[23rd October 1988]ff,] 13[-14] →

**(I do not mean hostility, or even obstruction: just being opposite.)

***[or both, presumably…?]

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