{Polygamy and the Commune}[12th October 1971]

[Redbook1:226][19711012:0000]{Polygamy and the Commune}[12th October 1971]

Tuesday 12th October 1971

            The more I think about it, the more I believe that the life of the commune is more suited to men than the life of the nuclear family alone.  It is said that while most men would like to love many women, most women would prefer to love one man.  There is room for both forms in either sex, in a commune.  In an odd way I think men separate sex and being in love to a greater extent:  a man is unlikely to be in love with more than one woman, but he would like to love, and make love to, many women who are his friends and who attract him.  Women (as I understand it) would mostly be happy to make love only to that man they are in love with and who is in love with them; but once that position is secured, they may enjoy making love to other men whom they love and who love them.  Where there is no love, women generally fear making love; men do not, but prefer (in the commune situation) not to make love to someone they do not care for at all. 

            I have written elsewhere about the advantages of commune-living for children.

            But what about jealousy?  In men I think it results from insecurity – fear of losing one’s woman – and it should be normally less likely in a commune.  Women might find the emotional needs left by a man harder to satisfy, even in a commune, so jealousy might be more common with them, tho’ still rarer than now.

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